Blind adherence to a religion could turn you into a defeatist, ignorant, and delusional person.
My mother is a very religious woman. Having said that, she considers letting herself be seen or even seeing other men for the next 3 months after her husband’s death to be a clear breach of God’s words. In Arabic it’s called Iddah (Arabic: العدة; period of waiting) which is the period a woman must observe after the death of her spouse or after a divorce, during which she may not marry another man.
Does this mean she has to stay at home all day for the next 90 days?
Now take note that common sense is what most fundamentalists are lacking. No disrespect to Islam but most insecure Muslims behave as blind sheep.
The prophet would want you to achieve well being and the healing process after losing a loved one works best when you continue to live. Life goes on as they say and inactivity will only create an unhealthy mental space during the course of grieving. I am there myself.
I may not be religious, but I know God would want you to understand His command rather than observing without thought. Creative interpretation can be misleading I admit, but negating the practicality of living is not morally right either.
Mama continues to say that God will oversee everything, don’t worry too much about worldly affairs, and it will work out fine.
No offence to believers but in the words of my brother in law, some things are just beneath God’s interest and He would want you to sort it out. Divine interventions are never direct but it’s always there. You just need to develop awareness.
Perhaps this one last punch will deliver the message. Happy Sunday Everyone.
A religious man is on top of a roof during a great flood. A man comes by in a boat and says “get in, get in!” The religous man replies, ” no I have faith in God, he will grant me a miracle.”
Later the water is up to his waist and another boat comes by and the guy tells him to get in again. He responds that he has faith in god and god will give him a miracle. With the water at about chest high, another boat comes to rescue him, but he turns down the offer again cause “God will grant him a miracle.”
With the water at chin high, a helicopter throws down a ladder and they tell him to get in, mumbling with the water in his mouth, he again turns down the request for help for the faith of God. He arrives at the gates of heaven with broken faith and grumbles to God about granting a miracle but had been let down. God chuckles and responds, “I don’t know what you’re complaining about, I sent you three boats and a helicopter.”